To be fair, many times, people will say this because it’s expected; a social nicety that’s supposed to ease the sting of a break-up that usually feels more like a sharp kick to your soul’s nuts.
The fact of the matter is, even with the most amicable splits, you’re going to need time to mourn, to heal and adjust.
The challenge is aggravated by the fact that I don't really know why he broke up with me, and I still have feelings for him.
I've shared my feelings only with a few close female accountability partners who have prayed with me through this time.
Last year, when I was planning to go to visit another good friend in New York, he happened to be going there at the same time. When he told me he really preferred to fly by himself, it felt like a slap in the face because of all the effort I had put into this friendship.
So I walked away and hadn’t talked to him for a year.