It was more than a year before she was ready to date.
Not to Elaine, a mother of three who asked not to be identified because she's in the midst of divorce proceedings. The first was starting to date two months after her separation."You go through a selfish stage when you split up," she says. "' As awful as that was, it was worse to see her son so miserable when the relationship ended. Children of divorce have already experienced loss, maybe trauma.Media Contact: Barbara Fornasiero; EAFocus Communications, 248.260.8466; [email protected] Connell Linton, Woll & Woll, 248.354.6070, [email protected], Mich.– April 26, 2016 – Beginning a new relationship after divorce can be tricky, especially if there are minor children involved. C., a Michigan-based divorce and family law practice with more than 20 years of experience in complex family law issues, offers eight tips for divorced parents as they pursue a romantic life post-divorce: “Children don’t need to be introduced to a revolving door of romantic partners,” Woll said."You assume your kids understand that mom needs a life outside of them. "He asked about him almost daily, for months," she says. The problem is not that they get attached to a new person, but that exposure to a parade of new people creates the potential for more loss."At its heart, this is about trust," says psychologist Leah Klungness of Long Island, who specializes in single-parent issues.They don't."Mistakes 2, 3, and 4:* Introducing her children to the first man she liked.* Allowing him to spend time at the house, especially playing ball with her son, then 8.* Giving him a peck on the cheek one day as they parted. Children are likely to wonder, "Who can I count on to stay around? " Some blame themselves: "I'm not lovable." The more loss there is, the more distrustful they can become, including in their own future relationships.