and other match-making sites have no effective way to screen or verify all users, so be aware that there are criminals mixed in with the honest members, and these criminals are actively looking for victims.
Their objective is to gain your trust, win your love, and then steal your money or your identity. Experts advise never to reveal your personal information online to anyone not known personally.
Chertorofsky I am a single widowed man age 49 who has met some personable, attractive women on ) because so many profiles that I have seen are poorly constructed and not thoughtfully put together.
Which is why I feel compelled to tell my story of what NOT to write in order to find a mate -- or just a date. Look happy, look fun, look exotic if you want, but the picture you post should be engaging and reflect you. Sometimes the pictures people put up look like they just came out of prison.
Which is why -- I have a sister after all -- I want to be honest about what works and what doesn’t from a guy who genuinely likes women. I skip anyone whose photo is of them standing in the bathroom shooting themselves in the mirror with their i Phone. When people see you in person they should be thinking that you are as lovely as your picture -- or even lovelier. "I think its cool (sort of) you slept in a hay stack, but if you look like crap in the picture, I'm going to assume that you will look like crap if we ever end up in the haystack together. Do not write “I am a sexually confident woman” unless you want to be with guys who are submissive or guys who think they are more sexually confident and can’t wait to show you. Write what YOU want, not what you think someone else wants. Rather than opting for the expected dinner out, try staying in and cooking your own meal together. Check out local cooking classes in your area rather than opening up your home to a stranger.
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And yes, as “mean” as that sounds, appearances matter. Do not pick sex kitten pictures but in your profile write how you want only a serious relationship. You can BE sexually confident, but don't write that -- you'll just attract weirdoes. Somehow, I don't think that 85 percent of women in the online dating world would really choose watching Sunday football and baseball on TV as a favorite activity, but apparently they do.
Nobody will believe you but they will lie to you because that is what you said you wanted but is not what they are interested in.